What if we started from a place of worthiness?

As 2021 skids into a stressful finish, some of us are considering how we would like 2022 to be different. Specifically, we are considering how WE would like to be different in the new year. Yes, these areas of improvement are often called “resolutions,” and we all know that the average resolution lasts approximately 36 hours into the first week of January.

I wonder if part of the reason for the short shelf-life of resolutions flows from where we start when we are making them. My temptation is always to start with “this area of my life is broken/flawed/bad, and I want to fix it.” In other words, I feel bad about some part of myself and think consciously or subconsciously that following through with my planned improvements will make me feel good about that part of my self or my Self in general. 

I am realizing that this is self-defeating thinking. If I don’t feel good about myself right now, the improvement I make in the new year (if any) will not change how I feel about myself for long. If I achieve a goal, I will quickly identify another area that needs improving and not be satisfied because of that perceived deficiency. To be clear, goals are very important. Setting goals, identifying tasks, and following through is a critical part of living a healthy life. But it is possible to start somewhere other than, “This part of me is bad.” 

What if we started from a place of worthiness? What if we started with loving ourselves where we are, all perceived flaws and deficiencies included? 

There is a considerable positive difference when we say, “I want to change this area of my life because it is not serving me, it is not honoring me, it is not benefiting me.” Something important changes when we are willing to do the work because we are WORTHY of something better for ourselves. We choose to love ourselves enough to make a change, rather than making a change so we may eventually start loving ourselves.

As I am looking at 2022, I am trying - not perfectly by any means - to come from a place of self-love and self-compassion, owning my own worthiness. I hope that you will join me in this space. Together, we can become more full, healthy, and whole versions of ourselves, because that is what you and I both deserve.

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